Why does my husband need a man cave
It's a terrible trope of family sitcoms, Super Bowl commercials, and any other area that our culture has let toxic masculinity run wild: the husband, usually dressed in cargo shorts and a visor, explains to his wife why he needs a space that can serve as his "man cave," a place where antiquated, troglodyte mentalities can thrive. It's insulting, it's tacky, and surprise! A man cave, for the uninitiated, is defined as a space within your home that is the exclusive domain of the "man of the house" for him to decorate and do with as he pleases. As such, its furnishings typically showcase the trifecta of chic—billiards, booze paraphernalia, and black leather—and tout fine finishes like "Parking for Packers Fans Only" and neon Miller High Life signs.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: This Guy Built The Coolest Man Cave For Only $107. You’d Think He Spent Thousands!
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26 Thoughts Moms Have When the Husband Is in His Man Cave
LifeWire -- When Vicki and Brian Meldrum bought their first home four years ago in Cleveland, they made a pact: She could decorate and furnish the rest of the 1,square-foot house however she wanted, but the byfoot finished basement was his.
Brian Meldrum filled his "man cave" in the basement with vintage movie posters and sports memorabilia. But for Brian, it's not just about holding onto the ratty futon and the "Fletch" movie poster from his bachelor days.
It's about having a "mantuary," or "man cave" -- a space just for him where he can watch sports uninterrupted or play Xbox games with his buddies. Having a room of one's own can provide refuge in a stressful world, but can a mantuary actually help a marriage?
Steve Brody, a clinical psychologist from Cambria, California, who specializes in marriage counseling, thinks so. Man caves may just be the 21st-century wrinkle to it. An all-or-nothing approach to spending time together or apart is never the answer, Brody says: Talk it out and split the difference.
The Meldrums adopted a his-and-hers approach to TV viewing. Sal Guarisco, a year-old sales manager from Atlanta, negotiated a mantuary with his wife, Wendy, 50, when her year-old parents moved into a cottage in their backyard and began joining them for dinner each night. Sal, an amateur musician, populated his cave with four guitars, two microphone stands, an engineering table, an electronic keyboard, a computer to record tracks on, a TV and DVD player -- and a "Star Trek" lamp.
While Sal doesn't have a "no girls allowed" sign on the door, he makes his daughter Emilia, 11, ask permission if she wants to "play 'American Idol'" and use the microphones. Out of respect for your partner's sanctuary, Brody suggests knocking or announcing yourself by asking, "Hey, is this a good time?
Nicholas, an amateur club circuit racer and owner of a digital sports camera company, takes the jostling driver's seat for hours on end -- helmet on, lights off, surround sound blaring. It's just a place where somebody goes and has a meaningful experience," Brody says. Vicki Meldrum certainly does. Not to be outdone by her husband's dreams of upgrading his man cave kegerator! I want the makeup table. I want the whole enchilada.
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What’s REALLY the Deal with a Man Cave?
To me, the term man cave seems silly and conjures up images of…well…a caveman. Most people know what a man cave is. A place of solitude. A place to drink beers with the guys, throw some darts, watch the game, eat potato chips, razz one another, and waft farts in each others general direction whenever possible. My man cave was a workshop, I guess.
Having lived for years in a small apartment right in the heart of the city with 3 children and a dog, my husband has not had the privilege of having a physical man cave to call his own. I am certain that he is not the only one. However, not having an actual man cave has not prevented my husband from getting a healthy dose of cave-time. This precious time is used to catch up on current affairs or the latest sports news, and helps him to recharge so that he comes out ready to be present with the family. My husband is lucky to have found a good group of friends — most of them fellow dads — who enjoy time together over their common interest in craft beer, amongst other things!
F*ck Your Man Cave
Man Caves. Love them? Hate them? Wish you had one for yourself? I have a complicated relationship with my man's cave: It makes me angry. You too? I just look at him. And then I explode. Just kidding. Then he either rolls his eyes or laughs—and yes, each reaction makes me a bit more cranky.
6 Reasons Why He Needs A Man Cave
It's an escape from family responsibilities your wife and mother of your kids cannot and does not escape from. What would happen if she did lived in her woman cave? It's checking out mentally, physically and emotionally in a destructive way unhealthy for your marriage and children. It's a cop out from the daily grind you signed on to when you committed yourself to marriage and had children.
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