Man wants to make you happy
Men love to make us happy. If they love us, that is their number one goal. Make us happy. They feel "pound their chest" good about themselves. They see it as doing their job as a boyfriend — a job well done if they have provided that happiness for you. I have known about his "happy" knowledge for several years and kept it in mind during my current relationship.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Victory Boyd - I Wanna Make You Happy (Official Lyric Video)
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Let me count the ways:. Of course, neither do you. It just seems so much more nefarious when a guy says it. This is one of my favorites. Example: every client I have complains that men text too much. Virtually none of them have ever explicitly told the guy that it would make her happy to talk on the phone at the end of the night.
They think men should just figure it out on their own. You should always consider his intent, instead of reacting solely to your perceptions of what he meant. Why do we help you move apartments? Why do we pick up the check? Why do we buy you nice birthday gifts? Why do we fix your computer? Why do we try so hard to please you in bed?
One reason: we want you to appreciate us. That is our reward for everything. Appreciate us consistently and we will continue to give you the world. Tell us how much we suck and are disappointing you, and very few men are gonna want to stick around. I really like this. I agree with a lot of what you have said and when you meet a good decent man they will probably feel exactly the same as all you. I think half the issue is that people often let that one bad apple spoil a whole bunch.
Think the next will do what the last did or worst and women then project a whole lot of issues onto a relationship when they are not always there.
I am guilty of doing that sometimes admittedly however I am lucky to be in a relationship now with someone who i to believe to be one of the good guys so I am going to admit to stop projecting my insecure thoughts.
If i do slip up and do that explain to him why and how i am feeling and apologize. Finally no matter what happens to this relationship I never will give up on the fact that I am worthy of the Happily ever after I crave. To see it you must believe it! This is true. It took me a few years of bad relationships and eventually finding myself—and your blog—to recognize this. So, thank you. No more whining. No more complaining. No more wasted tears. I am happier than ever after changing my approach to dating men!
I only disagree with one point. If a woman gains a ton of weight, she does need to lose it. Not only for the sake of her appearance but also for her health. If I am dating a girl and she gains 50 or pounds, I am definitely going to talk to her about it and in a loving way, help her work out a plan to lose the weight. And the point about women telling men what makes them happy is gold.
Absolutely gold. Most men have absolutely NO idea how to make you happy unless you tell him. The same principal applies to the bedroom. We may have slept with 20 women before we met you, but ALL women are different.
Just give us pointers, in a loving, friendly and direct manner in how to make you happy. If they are, then break up with him. Or you can use some humor to solve your problems. Problem solved. Use humor and think out of the box to solve some of these problems. Or you can even be playful. Make a list of rewards sex acts for example for which he earns if he does something you want him to do.
Like picking up his laundry for 5 days in a row earns him a blow job on day 6. Be creative. Positive reinforcement works for human beings as it does for animals. Negative reinforcements, such as nagging, work short term but it rarely motivates people to change for the better.
If all the above fails, and you cannot accept his offenses, you need to break up with him. You are right. But some will. The question I have, is if you are not on the same page in regards to family and household duties, why get married.
I believe in discussing these things and making agreements before you make a lifelong commitment. The wife had to do everything. So there are tradeoffs in everything. Another thing. Or even holds the fact that we are doing what she wants against us. The guy does his job, is a good father, takes care of the kids, helps the woman clean.
In return he gets a woman with bad temper, who nags and who only has sex with him once a month, if that. That is what confuses men. Dump her. The question is are you doing it in a negitive tone with an attitude??? Women like it when it comes from your heart to help her without her asking. Normally women now a days work and get home and work some more.
Men help you women out no wonder their exhausted and wont have sex…. Help her and you show her you love her and she will love you the way you want too. One issue with this: calories-in, calories-out is a faulty theory, and this is overwhelmingly backed up by science.
This is a common issue with women, so weight-loss sometimes seems impossible. The results are amazing. However, when women start dating men, staying on a diet is very difficult. At a certain point, men have to be mindful of our dietary needs. Setting us up for success is tremendously helpful. How our bodies work frequently changes as we age, and we need your support. If they choose to read and apply it, great!
If not, oh well. Fingers crossed. I always cooked meals and showed my appreciation for him in other ways but it was never good enough. His attitude has me stepping back now and taking time to myself, I was the one who broke up with him and of course he tried keeping in touch but I told him no. He was also critical of my weight he was no gym rat, I exercised more than he did and I never felt good enough. There were good things but deep down he had major issues.
I would love to find a guy who resembles the attitude in this article. Your ex sounds similar to mine, and my relationship was about the same length.
Did he come on strong and seem adoring at first? Mine was that way but then became critical and passive aggressive. Nothing was ever to his liking. I should have been more aware of the troubling aspects of his critiques which were often irrational — for example, I saved money and was frugal due to concern about the recession which was at its peak as we were dating, yet he criticized me as too cheap.
I gained 5 lbs and he made me feel bad. If I went to the gym in the evening or suggested we go together, he resented it. He resented my career and hobbies that he was aware of when we met. All the things about me that he liked when we started dating became points of criticism and I failed to note this , but rather dug in my heels and let him trash my self esteem.
Yes he came on adoring and strong in the beginning, he was actually seemingly adoring throughout and peppered with me with nice gestures and compliments in between the criticism during our relationship. I worked out far more than he did too. The thing that bothered me is that I never criticized these things about him and they never bothered me so why was it okay to be critical of me?
KH77 and Lmj , it sounds like you had a couple of not-so-good guys, there are good guys out there. Unfortunately that usually means spending more time looking for them.
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Men tell me all the time that they want to make their wife or girlfriend happy, but they need them to tell them how. And heaven help them if they guess wrong. She takes this most precious gift that a man wants to offer her—a desire to make her happy—then dishonors it by making him bad and wrong for not having the gift of psychic reading. I believe this is a big reason men leave.
Let me count the ways:. Of course, neither do you. It just seems so much more nefarious when a guy says it. This is one of my favorites. Example: every client I have complains that men text too much.
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Every man wants to make his wife or female partner happy. You know what that giving up looks like—shutting down, ignoring you, checking out with his computer or phone. Do you ever criticize him for not doing something the way you would have done it? You know, like not cleaning the kitchen or loading the dishwasher how or when you wanted? Not doing the laundry the right way? Do you ever try to be helpful by telling him what to wear, what to eat, what he should say to his boss at work? And this makes you less lovable too. View all posts by A Simple Therapy. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google account.
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Women are natural givers. We think that to give is to be nurturing and feminine. And it would seem to make sense that the more we give, the more we get. Let me show you what I mean.
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